1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:05,860 This is wildlife with my mom. I mean, I'm German. 2 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:12,320 Okay, no. This is wildlife with my mom. 3 00:00:14,660 --> 00:00:21,100 So one thing I wanted to talk about is the sentence, I want better for my kids. 4 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:28,860 Because I almost always hear from people that don't really want better for their kids. 5 00:00:28,860 --> 00:00:35,420 and I have been thinking about my time on the Canary Islands 6 00:00:35,420 --> 00:00:38,000 and all the homeschooling, unschooling parents I met 7 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:43,100 and most of them are in my eyes not radical enough 8 00:00:43,100 --> 00:00:46,500 and I often heard this, I want better for my kids 9 00:00:46,500 --> 00:00:51,200 yeah, so I was thinking about this 10 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,880 and I think it's an important thing to think about 11 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:58,820 because if we talk about that we want better for our kids 12 00:00:58,820 --> 00:01:06,640 then we also need to think and talk about how we imagine the future being like what it looks like 13 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:14,120 so my parents always told me yeah we want better for you and for your sister and 14 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:22,860 I really saw them suffering every day my mom got up at four to be done with work at I don't know 15 00:01:22,860 --> 00:01:29,680 one so she could be at home for us cooking lunch when we came home from school and these kind of 16 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:35,600 things my dad was working the whole day I always saw him on the weekends okay but 17 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:44,040 weekdays maybe for dinner and I think they still didn't make so much money I mean I was a child 18 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:50,200 I didn't really understand if they have a lot or not a lot of money from my perspective today I 19 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:56,000 would say they were working their asses off they earned well but not well enough to justify 20 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:05,260 giving your life away for this yeah and to be honest yeah they were really unhappy not only 21 00:02:05,260 --> 00:02:11,660 because of how they approached work and these kind of things but how they created their own life 22 00:02:11,660 --> 00:02:22,440 and they did that red race thing for years every fucking day they never really took a break yeah 23 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:28,620 we went on vacation here and there these kind of things but i've never really see them enjoy their 24 00:02:28,620 --> 00:02:36,260 life or anything everything was was a task a core to-do list thing or anything like that 25 00:02:36,260 --> 00:02:45,460 really strange and what I was thinking about is that I always needed I mean it was like 26 00:02:45,460 --> 00:02:53,820 you had to play games it there was no chance of saying no I don't want to play games I hate 27 00:02:53,820 --> 00:02:59,040 playing games so much I hated it as a kid as well and I always had to play with my family and we 28 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:07,220 all hated it so i don't even understand but this was the fun part they had to do because they had 29 00:03:07,220 --> 00:03:12,340 to have fun in their life you know what i mean but it wasn't fun so what i really think was um 30 00:03:12,340 --> 00:03:19,380 the best part was playing monopoly i mean they were complaining the whole day about their lives 31 00:03:19,380 --> 00:03:24,980 and how much they hated all of this and how much work and how much this and how much that and blah 32 00:03:24,980 --> 00:03:33,200 blah and after dinner monopoly what the fuck the same shit over again i didn't really get that as a 33 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:40,980 kid for me it was obvious now when i look back and when i look back at my childhood and see what 34 00:03:40,980 --> 00:03:46,960 kind of fun activities my parents did with me and what kind of fun activities i'm doing with my child 35 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:55,020 I would say my dad definitely had I think 10 days a year where he really let loose 36 00:03:55,020 --> 00:04:01,480 we went camping with a tent and a bunch of other dads with their kids no women nothing 37 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:13,140 drinking beer at night fire and this was really my fun yeah once a year fun time really crazy but 38 00:04:13,140 --> 00:04:16,580 The rest was like a lot of yelling, a lot of violence. 39 00:04:16,900 --> 00:04:19,980 And every damn night they watched TV. 40 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:22,540 They didn't bring us to bed or anything like that. 41 00:04:22,540 --> 00:04:24,640 They were just like, oh, it's 8 o'clock, you got to go. 42 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:26,140 And these kind of things. 43 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:27,920 So really strange. 44 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:31,360 When I think about it now, I don't get it. 45 00:04:31,820 --> 00:04:33,500 As a kid for me, this was normal. 46 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:36,380 I thought, okay, parents have to watch TV at night. 47 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:42,340 And then at some point when the commercial comes up at 8, you just have to go to bed. 48 00:04:42,340 --> 00:04:50,640 it was crazy so um yeah they were basically not reliable they were emotionally not available 49 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:58,800 they were really caught up in their own fucked up version of life i think and i had to go to 50 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:03,900 kindergarten from a couple of weeks old uh at the beginning my mom was a single mom so 51 00:05:03,900 --> 00:05:10,300 she put me in kindergarten right away and she told me i was always sick and i wonder why 52 00:05:10,300 --> 00:05:19,180 I do remember when I was a kid that I was almost all the time I had something like I was sick all 53 00:05:19,180 --> 00:05:27,480 the fucking time and when she met my dad I mean my my stepdad but he adopted me so he's my dad 54 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:35,180 I grew up with him that changed because my grandma really stepped in and she picked a new kindergarten 55 00:05:35,180 --> 00:05:40,620 She also picked me up in kindergarten after, I don't know, three or four hours. 56 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:45,400 So I spent the rest of the day with her outside in the garden at the river. 57 00:05:45,780 --> 00:05:50,520 My grandpa as well, he went on hikes with me from a very, very young age. 58 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:53,380 They basically rescued me. 59 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:55,700 So I'm very grateful for that. 60 00:05:56,580 --> 00:06:01,880 And my parents really, they had all the time to say, I want you to have a better future thing going on. 61 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:09,040 so I went to a private school which is nice because it was obviously better than regular school 62 00:06:09,040 --> 00:06:16,440 but still somehow fucked up and after that I studied for 10 years and I was really pressured 63 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:22,700 into studying there was no exception I wanted to do something else and I was accepted at a zoo I 64 00:06:22,700 --> 00:06:30,060 think somewhere in the middle of nowhere to yeah to learn how to handle reptiles and these kind of 65 00:06:30,060 --> 00:06:35,400 things I was really into it when I was maybe 16 or something like that but my 66 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:40,060 parents were just like no you cannot do it you have to you have to finish school 67 00:06:40,060 --> 00:06:55,242 and you have to go to university yeah that was crazy so I was really pressured into it there was no escape from it And the hilarious part is that I had to support myself all the time through studying 68 00:06:55,702 --> 00:06:59,602 Like, they didn't really want to support me. They were so unreliable. 69 00:07:00,222 --> 00:07:03,242 And that is the most hilarious part, because they had enough money, 70 00:07:03,422 --> 00:07:08,782 and so there was a huge legal fight that the authorities were fighting for me, 71 00:07:08,782 --> 00:07:12,722 because they were demanding money from them, from my parents. 72 00:07:13,242 --> 00:07:17,002 So you get an idea of how fucked up that is. 73 00:07:17,122 --> 00:07:20,582 And I know other kids, I mean, they have it way, way harder. 74 00:07:22,222 --> 00:07:27,182 So, yeah, and I always found it funny that my parents, they always wanted better for me. 75 00:07:27,942 --> 00:07:29,742 And they never did. 76 00:07:30,402 --> 00:07:31,742 They never did better. 77 00:07:31,742 --> 00:07:35,802 Like, it was all the time the fucking same thing. 78 00:07:35,902 --> 00:07:42,722 They never listened to us as kids, what we wanted, what our opinion was or anything like that. 79 00:07:43,242 --> 00:07:48,842 And I really didn't get why do I have to prepare for a life that they hate. 80 00:07:49,582 --> 00:07:52,862 So I really hated every day of my life as a kid. 81 00:07:53,862 --> 00:07:58,002 And I do remember that until a couple of years ago, 82 00:07:58,042 --> 00:08:03,482 I really had a lot of panic attacks when I needed to open the front door of my home. 83 00:08:03,802 --> 00:08:08,802 No matter where I lived in this world, I always had like, yeah, I don't know, 84 00:08:08,802 --> 00:08:12,542 once or twice a month that I just couldn't open it. 85 00:08:12,542 --> 00:08:18,582 I couldn't turn the key around I thought that I would die when I opened the door it really felt 86 00:08:18,582 --> 00:08:25,382 like it it changed when I got my first dog because I knew that if there was a murder inside that house 87 00:08:25,382 --> 00:08:30,982 my dog would know and he would fight for me so this was when I was able to change that 88 00:08:30,982 --> 00:08:39,022 and it came from this everyday fuck up when I went home from school and when I was back home 89 00:08:39,022 --> 00:08:40,222 and I had to open the door. 90 00:08:40,642 --> 00:08:43,102 When I was little I had to ring the bell 91 00:08:43,102 --> 00:08:46,502 and then I was waiting for my mom to come to the door 92 00:08:46,502 --> 00:08:48,782 and she was always in a bad mood 93 00:08:48,782 --> 00:08:51,082 and you would never know if it's the bad mood, 94 00:08:51,222 --> 00:08:54,402 the super bad mood, the super super bad mood. 95 00:08:55,342 --> 00:08:57,162 So I don't blame her. 96 00:08:57,302 --> 00:08:59,602 She had a really fucked up childhood and everything 97 00:08:59,602 --> 00:09:01,042 and she really did her best. 98 00:09:02,022 --> 00:09:04,862 But from the child's perspective still horrible. 99 00:09:04,862 --> 00:09:12,682 so I think things like that they do have such a long-lasting impact if you're always liked in a 100 00:09:12,682 --> 00:09:18,602 fucked up mood as a parent and if you tell your parents yeah I want better for you yeah so do it 101 00:09:18,602 --> 00:09:24,622 better now we need like to have it better now not in 10 years because if you fuck it up now 102 00:09:24,622 --> 00:09:31,982 the next 10 years will be hard work for me in therapy but it is what it is so when I studied I 103 00:09:31,982 --> 00:09:39,062 had my kid and I took him to university because I researched and I googled and I asked people 104 00:09:39,062 --> 00:09:45,582 there's no rule you cannot bring your child to to university it's legal so I did that because I 105 00:09:45,582 --> 00:09:50,102 didn't want him to go to kindergarten right away because I think he was two weeks old when I had 106 00:09:50,102 --> 00:09:58,262 to go back to university for the last bachelor's semester and I was basically neglected to do my 107 00:09:58,262 --> 00:10:06,342 master's uh university bonn in north rhine westphalia in western germany because i had a kid 108 00:10:06,342 --> 00:10:13,502 and i i wasn't up for giving him into the kindergarten so the professor told me basically 109 00:10:13,502 --> 00:10:19,822 yeah you have to fuck off there's no chance we want you to study here and do your masters here 110 00:10:19,822 --> 00:10:25,242 and was i was quite sad because i really had except this professor everyone was so awesome 111 00:10:25,242 --> 00:10:32,802 so I thought like okay fuck that I moved to Berlin there I did my master's with my child 112 00:10:32,802 --> 00:10:41,382 and there was no problem and when he turned three three and a half he actually went to kindergarten 113 00:10:41,382 --> 00:10:46,302 but just because they worked there part-time in the management and it was a democratic kindergarten 114 00:10:46,302 --> 00:10:55,902 so I was able to meet people that were really aligned with how I treat my child 115 00:10:55,902 --> 00:10:59,362 and I didn't really feel like I'm the weirdo 116 00:10:59,362 --> 00:11:06,822 and it was like a huge support system in Berlin that was really nice 117 00:11:06,822 --> 00:11:11,162 so I was able to strengthen my idea of how to treat my child 118 00:11:11,162 --> 00:11:15,162 and yeah I traveled a lot with him 119 00:11:15,162 --> 00:11:29,942 And I really think that healed a lot of parts of me, like being independent, making better choices, trusting yourself and all these things. 120 00:11:30,042 --> 00:11:33,462 I really think traveling is a really good way of therapy. 121 00:11:34,922 --> 00:11:40,442 We travel all over Europe, Asia, and then we moved to the Canary Islands. 122 00:11:40,442 --> 00:11:48,102 because I really thought in Berlin we visited so many different schools, 123 00:11:48,102 --> 00:11:52,022 like even the free schools, free educational institutes. 124 00:11:52,422 --> 00:11:53,842 They were so not free. 125 00:11:54,342 --> 00:11:55,202 It was incredible. 126 00:11:55,362 --> 00:12:01,222 It still was the system, but in a nicer code, 127 00:12:01,602 --> 00:12:03,542 and that didn't really make sense to me. 128 00:12:03,882 --> 00:12:08,822 One school neglected us because he wasn't allowed to watch porn. 129 00:12:08,822 --> 00:12:15,242 not joking and he was six and we didn't have internet wi-fi at home 130 00:12:15,242 --> 00:12:25,562 because for what i mean i didn't need it um so they were like if he has no own if he has no 131 00:12:25,562 --> 00:12:32,322 like device at home where he can have free access to the internet that's basically against 132 00:12:32,322 --> 00:12:38,962 children's rights and yeah they don't want to have kids at their school that have this limited 133 00:12:38,962 --> 00:12:44,182 rights it was like okay i didn't know it was a right to watch porn when you're six but here we 134 00:12:44,182 --> 00:12:53,362 go it's okay yeah so i decided to to travel somewhere and we ended up moving to the canary 135 00:12:53,362 --> 00:13:01,382 islands then which was a nice thing because there was a huge community with yeah free learners and 136 00:13:01,382 --> 00:13:10,522 all of this that make me that made me really reflect on how radical am i and how yeah still 137 00:13:10,522 --> 00:13:18,782 some people call themselves free learning families and they still do not do free learning it's 138 00:13:18,782 --> 00:13:28,442 basically still school system but at home and um yeah i really thought when you move somewhere and 139 00:13:28,442 --> 00:13:30,282 there are so many homeschoolers and unschoolers, 140 00:13:30,742 --> 00:13:48,603 you will meet a lot of people that are super free and ready to deep dive into crazy topics and deep topics but that not the norm actually so and I really thought all this traveling alone with my child 141 00:13:48,603 --> 00:13:54,763 around the world that really made me think about this blind obedience my parents told me 142 00:13:54,763 --> 00:14:02,523 because through traveling i mean i was so obedient at the beginning i really failed at traveling 143 00:14:02,523 --> 00:14:07,403 because i was listening to people whatever they told me i was like okay this is how it's done 144 00:14:07,403 --> 00:14:17,303 and in the end i discovered uh that is not the case so um yeah they didn't respect me my parents 145 00:14:17,303 --> 00:14:22,403 never had respect for me still today they don't really respect me i have yeah i have huge respect 146 00:14:22,403 --> 00:14:29,203 for them because they're human beings but it's quite hard to respect someone who doesn't respect 147 00:14:29,203 --> 00:14:36,203 you at all and this was quite hurtful as a child you weren't you didn't have no voice your opinion 148 00:14:36,203 --> 00:14:43,823 was yeah non-existent they never asked for your opinion and this I was I was quite sure that my 149 00:14:43,823 --> 00:14:50,903 child should have a voice and an opinion and should be respected and really be free to express 150 00:14:50,903 --> 00:15:00,443 opinion because basically he's creating his life and yeah i don't know the example of me being 151 00:15:00,443 --> 00:15:06,823 pressured into studying i was always like a nature girl and i wanted to work with animals and these 152 00:15:06,823 --> 00:15:15,383 kind of things and i and i still if someone would ask me today what do you want to do for a living i 153 00:15:15,383 --> 00:15:19,403 work in and with nature, with animals 154 00:15:19,403 --> 00:15:23,343 but I went to a different direction, I studied languages 155 00:15:23,343 --> 00:15:27,043 and religious science, which is nice, I can't complain 156 00:15:27,043 --> 00:15:31,603 but still somehow sad 157 00:15:31,603 --> 00:15:35,603 that it didn't work out, but it's okay because I still 158 00:15:35,603 --> 00:15:39,803 have some time to do that, so I really think 159 00:15:39,803 --> 00:15:42,303 if you have choices you can create your own reality 160 00:15:42,303 --> 00:15:46,243 and I think every child has a right to do that. 161 00:15:46,343 --> 00:15:50,443 I know that a lot of kids in this world don't have rights at all. 162 00:15:50,783 --> 00:15:53,523 They have shitty lifestyles and all these things. 163 00:15:56,463 --> 00:16:00,263 What I often hear is, yeah, but it could be worse. 164 00:16:00,263 --> 00:16:05,623 Yeah, for my child or for me or for anyone who, you know what I mean, 165 00:16:06,023 --> 00:16:09,203 in my surrounding, yeah, it could be worse. 166 00:16:09,883 --> 00:16:11,543 Yeah, but it could be better as well. 167 00:16:11,543 --> 00:16:19,043 and if we always think about it could be worse we are not really we are lowering the bar i think 168 00:16:19,043 --> 00:16:26,183 if we look a level higher it could be better then we are raising the vibration i guess the energy and 169 00:16:26,183 --> 00:16:33,703 the outlook on life i guess and i don't know it motivates me if i know it could be better 170 00:16:33,703 --> 00:16:41,223 instead of oh it could be worse so i can chill out so i don't really think that is uh makes any sense 171 00:16:41,223 --> 00:16:46,723 And what I really hated about my parents, I mean, I love my parents, don't get me wrong. 172 00:16:47,063 --> 00:16:51,623 What I hated as a kid was that they were not authentically there. 173 00:16:51,783 --> 00:16:54,323 I think they always played the parent role. 174 00:16:54,623 --> 00:16:57,683 I don't even know these people still today. 175 00:16:57,863 --> 00:17:03,903 I mean, I get to know my father now more and more, but I have the feeling they still play a role. 176 00:17:04,223 --> 00:17:06,963 Now less than in my childhood. 177 00:17:06,963 --> 00:17:10,223 But for example, I've never seen them laugh, not once. 178 00:17:10,223 --> 00:17:17,083 that's crazy now okay my father is laughing here and there but as a kid i was always wondering why 179 00:17:17,083 --> 00:17:23,023 do they not enjoy life at all because i enjoyed life with my friends a lot and i thought this is 180 00:17:23,023 --> 00:17:31,343 wrong and i really think life is very complex so you have to make you have to make choices and 181 00:17:31,343 --> 00:17:38,983 i made the choice to be happy in life and what i think if you if you are used to to have choices 182 00:17:38,983 --> 00:17:44,043 and that one of those choices is that you are allowed to be happy and love and feel joy and 183 00:17:44,043 --> 00:17:50,803 these kind of things there i'm coming back to it could be worse yeah but i think you have the right 184 00:17:50,803 --> 00:17:56,483 to love no matter how many people in this world suffer it doesn't change it if you suffer 185 00:17:56,483 --> 00:18:06,003 through cutting your emotions i mean just being sad all day i think we came here to this earth to 186 00:18:06,003 --> 00:18:13,003 feel the whole range of emotions and not just the lower ones or whatever you want to call these 187 00:18:13,003 --> 00:18:23,163 emotions yeah and i really think this authenticity problem yeah that's just strange because i try to 188 00:18:23,163 --> 00:18:31,103 be very authentic with my kid i cannot not be authentic um i fail and he sees it i feel that 189 00:18:31,103 --> 00:18:41,703 he sees it so who am i playing i mean in the end it's i'm playing myself and i sometimes hear like 190 00:18:41,703 --> 00:18:47,283 yeah your parents were so strict and this is why you have no rules at home now but i didn't went 191 00:18:47,283 --> 00:18:54,103 from zero to 100 or other way around i'm not less affair or anything like that i really see myself 192 00:18:54,103 --> 00:19:02,883 more as a leader of this family so if this was a wolf pack i would be the leader of this pack so 193 00:19:02,883 --> 00:19:09,043 there are a lot of boundaries in our family but it's more bound to natural rights and to my personal 194 00:19:09,043 --> 00:19:18,023 rights or my yeah my personal boundaries and i really think my task is to provide and protect 195 00:19:18,023 --> 00:19:24,163 and to guide within these boundaries so i didn't went from oh my god i was never allowed to do 196 00:19:24,163 --> 00:19:29,543 anything to oh my god whole life needs to be fun everyone's doing whatever they want no quite quite 197 00:19:29,543 --> 00:19:35,503 the opposite i'm quite strict but i think within these boundaries you have to explore life you have 198 00:19:35,503 --> 00:19:41,843 to make choices you have to fail you have to fall you have to laugh you have to cry all these things 199 00:19:41,843 --> 00:19:50,443 have to happen and yeah I really think that I learned from my kid way more than I learned from 200 00:19:50,443 --> 00:19:58,863 anyone else in my life and my parents they couldn't do it somehow they they cut it out from their 201 00:19:58,863 --> 00:20:05,983 lives and I think that's quite sad because everyone who's really consciously watching their 202 00:20:05,983 --> 00:20:11,383 kids growing up you learn so much from them missing out on that is is huge and missing out 203 00:20:11,383 --> 00:20:16,663 on having a relationship with your child is huge as well that is really fucked up i think 204 00:20:16,663 --> 00:20:36,845 and yeah the baseline i want to do better for my kids i want to have i want you to have a better future and these kind of things yes makes sense so for me the result of this was that i don want my kid 205 00:20:36,845 --> 00:20:46,225 to learn unnecessary shit or like propaganda knowledge and not only to learn these things 206 00:20:46,225 --> 00:20:51,985 in a nicer way doesn't make sense to me just cut it out completely because so many of these 207 00:20:51,985 --> 00:20:57,885 homeschooling families are living the matrix lifestyle at home the fiat lifestyle whatever 208 00:20:57,885 --> 00:21:03,145 you want to call it barbillon lifestyle they live school at home doesn't make sense cut it out 209 00:21:03,145 --> 00:21:12,445 and this vacuum that you create there this unknown spot this gives you freedom and the freedom to be 210 00:21:12,445 --> 00:21:18,605 creative and to co-create with your kids what the future is gonna look like because if you say 211 00:21:18,605 --> 00:21:26,805 i want a better future for my kids then why don't you let them create their own future 212 00:21:26,805 --> 00:21:34,865 because this would be i think the better future they are so they are way more creative than we are 213 00:21:34,865 --> 00:21:44,105 I think all of us, we are somehow bound to our experiences and what resulted of this and that and that and that. 214 00:21:44,345 --> 00:21:46,245 So I think we are limited somehow. 215 00:21:46,845 --> 00:21:49,145 And kids are not limited at all. 216 00:21:49,365 --> 00:21:59,285 So why not use this creative unlimited force and energy to create something way better, way bigger than we can ever imagine. 217 00:21:59,285 --> 00:22:04,945 and I really think that kids have the right to create their own future because it's their future 218 00:22:04,945 --> 00:22:13,325 it's not my future I'm gonna die way before and this is why I think that it's crazy that old people 219 00:22:13,325 --> 00:22:19,145 run politics doesn't make sense to me I mean you could say yeah they're wise and they blah blah blah 220 00:22:19,145 --> 00:22:27,545 mix it up just mix it up ask kids what they want young people and what I learned through 221 00:22:27,545 --> 00:22:35,105 unschooling it's really not just they don't go to school it's more or less yeah how you redefine 222 00:22:35,105 --> 00:22:42,245 success or a successful lifestyle how you see these things and how you work with your fears of 223 00:22:42,245 --> 00:22:49,625 giving things up cutting things out of your life not being afraid or approaching this unknown spot 224 00:22:49,625 --> 00:22:58,885 filling it with your own ideas and be so secure in it even if you feel insecure but being secure 225 00:22:58,885 --> 00:23:04,605 that this is the right thing to do that you are allowed to redefine basically everything in life 226 00:23:04,605 --> 00:23:13,405 i think that's a beautiful spot and i think a lot of unschooling a huge part of this is just being 227 00:23:13,405 --> 00:23:20,705 weird and very different from yeah the npcs that are out there and that's okay really because i 228 00:23:20,705 --> 00:23:28,125 think if we don't do it we're just following the old path and that's fucking boring we don't have 229 00:23:28,125 --> 00:23:35,565 to do that so walking this unbeaten paths and really let the system exist somewhere else but 230 00:23:35,565 --> 00:23:42,085 not inside your family i think that is the hardest part to be conscious or yeah 231 00:23:42,085 --> 00:23:50,825 every day to be a little bit more conscious about what you brought from your childhood into your 232 00:23:50,825 --> 00:23:58,165 life now redefine if this is part of how you want to raise your kids if this is part of the future 233 00:23:58,165 --> 00:24:03,805 that you need to live now if this is already the better future you're creating in the right now 234 00:24:03,805 --> 00:24:11,645 and what I really really deeply believe is if it feels shit now it doesn't make sense later 235 00:24:11,645 --> 00:24:19,885 and I don't mean like oh I don't want to do yoga it is so hard that's not it but pressuring someone 236 00:24:19,885 --> 00:24:27,405 into going to school for 13 years studying for 10 years these kind of commitments to create a 237 00:24:27,405 --> 00:24:34,325 better future to suffer in the now I don't really think that this makes sense I really think that if 238 00:24:34,325 --> 00:24:41,125 you commit to something or if your kid is committing to something to be like a coach beside your kid 239 00:24:41,125 --> 00:24:48,765 something completely different but having this mindset of doing something now for 10 years to 240 00:24:48,765 --> 00:24:58,445 have a better later on to be free when you're 60 70 and travel the world then I don't really think 241 00:24:58,445 --> 00:25:05,485 that this makes sense at all I really think that if you want better for your kids you really have 242 00:25:05,485 --> 00:25:13,505 to redefine on everyday base what the fuck are you doing why the fuck are you doing it and if you 243 00:25:13,505 --> 00:25:20,945 want to bring that in the future that is now and very important just listen to your kids I think a 244 00:25:20,945 --> 00:25:26,345 lot of parents think they know better than their kids you might know better how to cook noodles 245 00:25:26,345 --> 00:25:33,485 or how to clean something but do you really know so much better than our kids I mean 246 00:25:33,485 --> 00:25:41,165 I don't know I don't I think that my kid he's always surprising me and I'm not stupid he's 247 00:25:41,165 --> 00:25:44,645 surprising me with a lot of things that he knows way better than me. 248 00:25:46,345 --> 00:25:51,585 So I think like trusting in yourself, in your abilities and trusting in your child 249 00:25:51,585 --> 00:25:58,185 makes a lot of sense when you want to redefine how a better future might look like 250 00:25:58,185 --> 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