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Welcome home and welcome to the Love Down Babylon podcast.

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My name is Tim and this is just going to be a short housekeeping episode

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just to keep you up to speed on what we're doing here.

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And the next couple episodes that you're going to see,

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the next one, I'm going through emotional processing

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as I'm having to choose navigating no contact.

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and so it might be a little slow and drawn out,

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but I'm trying to be as authentic as I can here

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and show you some of the ups and the downs

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because I can get very animated.

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I can get very enthusiastic.

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Hopefully I don't get trampled over by the sounds of vehicles.

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Whatever.

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Perfection's not the game here.

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Appreciating and loving imperfection actually is a huge part

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of the lessons that I've had to learn in life

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and that I hope to share with you.

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So the next episode is going to be a little bit of a vulnerable processing there

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and also dancing around trying to navigate how much of my personal life

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I should or shouldn't share when it comes to other people

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because depending upon who sees what, people form opinions.

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And that also is a huge part of the lessons that I want to teach you here.

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so you'll see that and then you'll see story time where I tell a little bit of a story and I'm

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starting with a family story because I have a much more intimate understanding of the environments

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and how different people in my family may or may not have experienced things so I can approach it

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I can approach something from at least try to approach it from a compassionate lens as a way

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to illustrate, you know, that being too judgmental about things might not be the whole truth

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of something.

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We're going to let this big truck roll by.

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Roll on by, big truck.

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Okay.

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So we let the big old truck roll by.

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Maybe you want more light.

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Oh, golly.

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There's my bright light.

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So after that, we're going to get into some more some drama, but it's OK.

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We're going to navigate this drama and I'm going to teach you some lessons that it's had for me.

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And I'm going to I'm going to elucidate how easy it is to get caught up in what you believe is going on and how that impacts how you feel about it.

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because how you feel about things matters a lot,

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and it governs how you act.

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Because as much as we think that we're acting and choosing,

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mostly we're reacting and playing out programs.

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And if you're not self-aware,

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or at least mindful of that this is going on

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most of the time with us you can make some regrettable decisions So what I going to do is talk about a situation that was going on in my life around the time that I recorded a video back at the very end

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I released it at the very end of last year. It might have even been New Year's Eve. It was a

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video I did about unconditional love and the idea of forgiving people, even people who come

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at me or have or intend to hurt me and where I get my ideas around what that means and how to

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approach that. And then things played out in my life that I did not expect and it got really weird

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really fast and really confronting. So we're going to talk about that and I'll go through that in

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detail because there's a lot to be gained. At least there has been a lot to be gained for me

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in understanding, as I say, where the rubber meets the road when it comes to, you know,

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your beliefs and your convictions and your experience in life and how your understanding

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plays a huge important role in this. So even though, um, Hey, I got to fly by. I like the

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birds. Anyway. Um, even though I found it highly confronting and, uh, and there were times when it

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made me feel very legitimately angry. I don't hate. And I want to show you why I don't hate

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and how that works for me, even when it looked like people were being very malicious towards me,

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at least from my perspective. So if you would be, if you would be so kind, I'm not going to put that

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in the main feed here. I have a second feed. This is the Love Down Babylon podcast. There's also

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Love Down Babylon Podcast Extras. There's going to be along the way a lot of different material

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that I put there, partly because being open is important to me. And so that means that my pilot

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episode trials, some of that is going to wind up there. And this video on unconditional love,

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you will find it in my extras feed. If my extras feed is not up and running by the time you see

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this episode, you can go to my YouTube channel at Love Down Babylon, and you can find the video

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there because I do have it over there for you to enjoy. I've been using YouTube as like a sandbox

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in order to kind of get a feel for how to put this podcast thing together and, you know, what I think

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is going to work and all of that. So, you know, you can get a little bit of an earlier glimpse.

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You can go watch the other episodes right now if you're over there and you want to see it. You

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don't want to wait around you can see that my arm is hurting from holding this phone out i should

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have used the stick whatever i don't need the stick traffic let's go back this way it might be

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a little darker for you but it's better for my poor little eyes here you like my spray paint job

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yeah we talk about where this was inspired from too because if you noticed that also So I introduce myself for this show here Welcome home Because this right here in my heart inside me that where my home is

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And I carry it with me everywhere.

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But since this is my domicile,

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that's the energy that this place has for me.

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And I'm sharing myself with you,

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so I'm inviting you into the home of myself.

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So, welcome home.

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Everybody's family here, okay?

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that's a philosophy that I have that I believe in. And I picked up an awful lot from some earlier

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experiences. We will learn about this. That's okay. A little mystery in life is all right.

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It keeps it fun and gives you something to look forward to. So I will just give you the heads up.

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You're going to see a couple episodes and then you're going to see, if you will, the

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losing my train of thought

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you can watch those and then

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be sure to go check out

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the unconditional love video

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that I made and then

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we're going to revisit

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the unconditional love episode

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in light of all

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of the crazy drama

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and stuff

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and in my eyes highly

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unnecessary conflict that was

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going on around the same time

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And even stuff I thought was over, I got blindsided.

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But that's all right.

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I'm all right.

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We're good.

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I took lessons from this exercise.

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Not the lessons that maybe other people might have been intending,

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if I can even ever pretend to know other people's intentions.

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Because I can't.

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That's a fallacy.

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I'm not going to sit here and convince myself or you

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that I know anything about other people's intentions.

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but I will show you how it looked to me

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loud but a pretty blue truck

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I'm going to show you how it looked to me in my experience

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and then how I navigated it

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because it was very

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it was not easy to navigate

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and you'll understand as you watch

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as I address all of that stuff

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but for now I just wanted you to have

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a little bit of an idea of what to expect

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Even though I'm not leaning into expectations in here, I'm still trying to, I'm not trying to like throw you for loops or leave you confused as to what's going on or, you know, or where I might be going with things.

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We're going to talk about this drama stuff and the interpersonal stuff because that is core to everything.

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But I have also a lot of ideas and things out there that I'm super enthusiastic about that I see from the perspectives I have, especially being involved in technology and computers for all of my life and aware of a lot of stuff that's going on out there.

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might want to talk about some things that I think are worth looking at when it comes to

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online platforms and monetization and

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centralization versus

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decentralization and what it takes to affect change out there for these things you know and what you can do where you can play your part in helping to make a better future for ourselves in our online relations happen or not

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Because I'm sure I won't get a lot of disagreement

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that the way that things are going in the online part of our world

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are not necessarily healthy for us.

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And it might be a good point in our collective journey

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to reflect on that and consider what our options really are and where we may want to apply our

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attention and our energies to the benefit of ourselves and everybody, because I have some

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ideas along that. And, you know, everybody's got ideas and opinions, but, you know, mine feel good

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to me. And so I want to share them with you. And maybe if they feel good to you, you know,

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something might come of it. Who knows? Anyway, if nothing else, you know, I imagine that you'll

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find this entire ride to be interesting in one facet or another along the way. And as always,

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I'm open to feedback. So if you want to give me your feedback, look down in the links below

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in the description and whatnot, you'll find ways that you can reciprocate to me, you know,

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time, talent, or treasure. You don't have to give me money. You're time watching. I respect you for

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your time watching. You can't get this back. So thank you. That's an extremely valuable thing that

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you give up when you give up your time and attention. And I want to teach you about that too,

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because it might, if I can impress upon you how important that is, seriously, it is extremely

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important to your experience in life, how you apply your attention and spend your time. And

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those are hard lessons for me too. You know, I'm still finding myself forgetting about that

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sometimes, but it's okay. Like I know I have a handle to grab onto and recenter myself.

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and I want to offer some of these perspectives to you as well.

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So, you know, there's a lot of meat on these bones.

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And so, you know, if the elbow ain't too interesting, just wait around.

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You'll find that we might find the ankle or the backbone or something

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and there's something juicy for you.

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So, you know, get ready.

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Eat it up because I'm going to dish it.

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All right, guys.

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Spin around with me for a second.

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Whee!

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All right.

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block the sun with the camera. How does that work? It puts a big black shadow on my face.

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All right. We're not going to do that, but we are going to say goodbye. All right. I love you

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and I wish the best for you. And remember, you don't fight hate with hate. You can't fight war

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with war. You can't solve conflict with conflict. You can't. You just get more hate, more war,

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more conflict. You need a little more understanding, a little more love, and as we go on, maybe you'll

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start to learn how and why. Love really is the answer. It really is. I see it. I'd like to help

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you see it too, because platitudes don't go very far. Lived examples do, and that's why I'm putting

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myself out here. I want to live by example. So here I am, and here I go. Bye.

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Thank you.